A desperate desire for another baby…

Next week I am going to be 31. I know it’s not THAT old, but I just look at that number and can’t really associate it with me. Can I really be 31?

Maybe it is because I am at that age where the clock is ticking, but I really want another baby. I have been broody ever since I had Jelly Baby and I keep trying to reason myself out of it. We need to buy a bigger house. I’d like Jelly to be at nursery school. I want to be a bit more comfortable financially. BUT, none of these are really helping me get over my desire for another child. It is a deep, yearning desire that goes against all reason.

Maybe it is because we lost Pea to a miscarriage in 2009. Life is that much more special. I feel very blessed to have my two girls. Motherhood is the best thing in the world and nothing compares to it. In fact there is nothing that I would rather do. We would manage, we would get by. Another little member of the family would be worth it surely?

At the start of the year…only 8 days ago…I reasoned with myself that I would try for another one next January, yet here I am 8 days later seriously considering just doing it now. If it is meant to be it is meant to be right? One thing I know for sure…nature’s drive for us to procreate is strong, in me at least!

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  1. January 9, 2013 / 2:17 pm

    It is a really hard feeling to cope with. I was exactly the same after our second child was born. Nothing about having a third made sense, but the thought just wouldn’t go away. It made me feel miserably guilty, because although I was very happy and KNEW I should be content with my two beautiful babies, the longing didn’t go away.

    No3 is two now ;-). It has been as hard as I thought it would be, it has made things much tougher financially, changed day-to-day life for us as a family (and not always in a positive way) and has delayed the after-baby stage significantly. I wouldn’t change a thing, though, and the longing for a baby has completely gone. I always worried that I would keep wanting another…and another…and another, but (for me, at least), 3 really was right.

    I hope you find a decision that is right for your family. I think you probably already know what that is!

    • linaloves2012
      January 9, 2013 / 2:25 pm

      Thanks so much for your comment, it’s great to know that others feel/have felt like this too!

      I’m so glad you got your number three 🙂

      Xx

  2. January 9, 2013 / 2:17 pm

    It is a really hard feeling to cope with. I was exactly the same after our second child was born. Nothing about having a third made sense, but the thought just wouldn’t go away. It made me feel miserably guilty, because although I was very happy and KNEW I should be content with my two beautiful babies, the longing didn’t go away.

    No3 is two now ;-). It has been as hard as I thought it would be, it has made things much tougher financially, changed day-to-day life for us as a family (and not always in a positive way) and has delayed the after-baby stage significantly. I wouldn’t change a thing, though, and the longing for a baby has completely gone. I always worried that I would keep wanting another…and another…and another, but (for me, at least), 3 really was right.

    I hope you find a decision that is right for your family. I think you probably already know what that is!

    • linaloves2012
      January 9, 2013 / 2:25 pm

      Thanks so much for your comment, it’s great to know that others feel/have felt like this too!

      I’m so glad you got your number three 🙂

      Xx

  3. hannahtasker
    January 12, 2013 / 10:51 pm

    Its a really strong feeling isn’t it, the urge I felt was overwhelming and I couldn’t get it off my mind at points. I don’t think anytime is the “right” time to have a baby. We made the decision to have another child (3rd) early last year, and it was a big decision. I am 6 months pregnant now and people still ask why we want 3 children when we already have a girl and a boy! What ever happens, I’m sure you would manage, things fall into place and there are pros to having children close together. I just hope that the yearning doesn’t return again when this baby starts to grow!

    Goodluck with whatever you decide 🙂

    • linaloves2012
      January 14, 2013 / 12:37 pm

      Hi, thanks for reading and commenting! I am so glad that you are getting your baby number three! I’m going to pop over to your blog now to vicariously live the dream! x

  4. hannahtasker
    January 12, 2013 / 10:51 pm

    Its a really strong feeling isn’t it, the urge I felt was overwhelming and I couldn’t get it off my mind at points. I don’t think anytime is the “right” time to have a baby. We made the decision to have another child (3rd) early last year, and it was a big decision. I am 6 months pregnant now and people still ask why we want 3 children when we already have a girl and a boy! What ever happens, I’m sure you would manage, things fall into place and there are pros to having children close together. I just hope that the yearning doesn’t return again when this baby starts to grow!

    Goodluck with whatever you decide 🙂

    • linaloves2012
      January 14, 2013 / 12:37 pm

      Hi, thanks for reading and commenting! I am so glad that you are getting your baby number three! I’m going to pop over to your blog now to vicariously live the dream! x

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