I was never the most popular kid. I had a handful of best friends and while I got on with most people I am very fussy about who I am friends with. You know that saying that you can count your friends on the fingers of one hand – that is totally me. And there is nothing wrong with that. Some days I do feel lonely, but perhaps that is my own doing, I can’t tolerate false friends, pretending to be something that I am not or having to fit into a certain niche to be accepted. I only hang around with the nice people, the people that make me happy.
Becoming a parenting blogger has had a massive impact on my life. Not only has it given me a career where I can stay at home and look after my babies, but it has given me a whole new set of online friends. I know that can sound a little weird but it’s true! There is just something about parenting bloggers. We are honest to a fault – we share our lives online, the good with the bad. We know that we have no one to impress, that we are all in it on our own, and we just hope that sharing these little bits of our lives will help other mums out there.
In our local area of South Wales there is a fabulous group of amazing bloggers. We all write parenting blogs, but they are all very different. Some of us homeschool, some of us work as well as blog and some of us look after grandchildren and are blogging about that journey. We all have very different styles, opinions and really there is no reason why we should be friends. In a way we work together in that we are invited to the same events and we sometimes write about the same things so we are like informal colleagues. But we have become so much more than that, we have become friends! We have a little Facebook group and Whatsapp group where we chat away. We support each other with work advice, parenting advice and we even get to meet up in person occasionally (with and without the kids!). We have all come to call our little group our “tribe”.
Do you know what I love about our little tribe the most? The lack of jealousy. The way we all have each other’s backs. We help each other out with blog advice, we share contacts, we promote each other’s post, we champion each other’s successes, celebrate our differences and there is no pressure to ‘fit in’. We all have the same worries and insecurities, and do you know what? We admit them. It is a breath of fresh air to be friends with a group of women who truly support and help each other, for no sinister agenda. Women supporting women and it feels good!
Well that is how I feel anyway, and I hope they feel the same. I love that now we have started meeting up in person, we are all just as great in real life, and I now know lots more people who I will see at events and I won’t worry about not knowing anyone!
So this post is a massive thank you to my tribe. Now go and check out their wonderful blogs!!
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