I don’t usually write political posts, or ranty ones, or ones critiquing other people’s parenting styles. I’m on my third child, they are happy, loved and thriving and I think as long as you can say that about your children, whatever parenting methods you use don’t matter to me.
I do things my way, other people do things theirs. I breastfed, other people don’t. Bottle feeding is not what I would choose to do, but I don’t really care how other people bring up their children as long as the children are safe, loved, healthy and happy.
Most people read in the news this week about Rachel Stevens leaving her. I’ve just searched for a link to share with you in case you hadn’t read it and this from the Daily Fail is the most credible I could find which says a lot.
The law doesn’t say what age you can leave children unattended at. Today I left the baby (14 months) safely strapped in his car seat, with nothing in his reach, in a locked car which was in my full sight the entire time while I walked 10 metres to the cashpoint. He must have been alone for a minute. Is this bad parenting? Maybe some would say so. To me it would be more dangerous to dangle the wriggling little monkey from one arm whilst trying to get cash out with the other but hey ho.
Whilst I’m not sure that I would leave by baby in the car out of my sight alone, it’s not my place to criticise Rachel Stevens, nor should it be anyone else’s. I’m sure she is a clever enough lady and a good enough mother that she would never leave her children in a situation she thought was dangerous. Her eldest child is 7 and most 7 year olds are quite sensible in my experience. She could not start the car and even if she could take off the handbrake it’s not exactly like the car was parked precariously at the top of a hill – it was sandwiched between other cars on a flat street in London – it would have gone nowhere. I’m not sure exactly where this ‘danger’ everyone is so intent on seeing exists in this situation? My little boy got into more trouble recently in softplay when he topped onto his head after climbing over a giant soft block!!
I’m all for keeping my children safe and I am sure Rachel Stevens is too. Just because you wouldn’t do it doesn’t mean that it is wrong. We all parent in different ways. We need to stop criticising the parenting choices of others. We as mothers need to be supportive and understanding and get on the same team. Let’s leave the criticism behind please and play nice ladies!
I’d love to hear your opinions on the matter – please leave me a comment below (but play nice!!).