Today I left my baby in the car

I don’t usually write political posts, or ranty ones, or ones critiquing other people’s parenting styles. I’m on my third child, they are happy, loved and thriving and I think as long as you can say that about your children, whatever parenting methods you use don’t matter to me.

I do things my way, other people do things theirs. I breastfed, other people don’t. Bottle feeding is not what I would choose to do, but I don’t really care how other people bring up their children as long as the children are safe, loved, healthy and happy.

Most people read in the news this week about Rachel Stevens leaving her. I’ve just searched for a link to share with you in case you hadn’t read it and this from the Daily Fail is the most credible I could find which says a lot.

The law doesn’t say what age you can leave children unattended at. Today I left the baby (14 months) safely strapped in his car seat, with nothing in his reach, in a locked car which was in my full sight the entire time while I walked 10 metres to the cashpoint. He must have been alone for a minute. Is this bad parenting? Maybe some would say so. To me it would be more dangerous to dangle the wriggling little monkey from one arm whilst trying to get cash out with the other but hey ho.

Whilst I’m not sure that I would leave by baby in the car out of my sight alone, it’s not my place to criticise Rachel Stevens, nor should it be anyone else’s. I’m sure she is a clever enough lady and a good enough mother that she would never leave her children in a situation she thought was dangerous. Her eldest child is 7 and most 7 year olds are quite sensible in my experience. She could not start the car and even if she could take off the handbrake it’s not exactly like the car was parked precariously at the top of a hill – it was sandwiched between other cars on a flat street in London – it would have gone nowhere. I’m not sure exactly where this ‘danger’ everyone is so intent on seeing exists in this situation? My little boy got into more trouble recently in softplay when he topped onto his head after climbing over a giant soft block!!

I’m all for keeping my children safe and I am sure Rachel Stevens is too. Just because you wouldn’t do it doesn’t mean that it is wrong. We all parent in different ways. We need to stop criticising the parenting choices of others. We as mothers need to be supportive and understanding and get on the same team. Let’s leave the criticism behind please and play nice ladies!

I’d love to hear your opinions on the matter – please leave me a comment below (but play nice!!).

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  1. Ema J Lowe
    September 23, 2015 / 7:05 pm

    I don’t know what al the fuss it. I often leave the children in the car if popping into the local corner shop for 5-10 mins. my oldest is 9, middle 4 and then 1yr old who is safely strapped in his carseat.

  2. September 24, 2015 / 9:23 pm

    I used to leave my daughter in the car napping on the drive all of the time when she was younger, I didn’t realise there was such stigma about it until the Rachel Stevens incident.

  3. September 24, 2015 / 10:40 pm

    I agree. I don’t drive but I know my partner has left him in the car for two seconds whilst he uses the cashpoint – he can still see him right there and nothing can happen

    However going into a shop for 10 minutes is a whole other kettle of fish – you can’t keep an eye on your children in that situation and that’s where I feel uncomfortable – if people know they are going to be gone for a while, take the kids in as well or go when they’re at nursery/pre school.

    It only takes that one idiot driver to not be looking where they are going and go into a load of parked cars. Although unlikely to happen, I wouldn’t be prepared to take that risk xx
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  4. September 24, 2015 / 10:43 pm

    Lol you got that right ‘DailyFail’ I don’t see what the uproar is! Its not as if she left the baby by itself, most seven year olds are quite mature.
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  5. September 24, 2015 / 11:04 pm

    I make a point of not getting involved in conversations about this sort of thing. We all do our best. x

  6. September 25, 2015 / 12:33 am

    I definitely think that we all need to stop judging each other. We are questioning our own parenting skills and decisions all of the time for fear of being judged. We all try our best, we adapt to situations (like not being able to breastfeed) and give our children the best possible alternatives. It knocks my confidence sometimes when people are so picky over silly things to do with my parenting of my daughter, it’s ridiculous and unnecessary. X
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  7. September 25, 2015 / 12:33 am

    I definitely think that we all need to stop judging each other. We are questioning our own parenting skills and decisions all of the time for fear of being judged. We all try our best, we adapt to situations (like not being able to breastfeed) and give our children the best possible alternatives. It knocks my confidence sometimes when people are so picky over silly things to do with my parenting of my daughter, it’s ridiculous and unnecessary. X
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  8. September 25, 2015 / 12:22 pm

    This is such a great post, especially because the message is to live and let live. I might get heat for this, but being an American in the UK I see that people can tend to be a bit holier than thou, and are quick to judge others for doing what they do. Sure, I don’t condone stupidity in any country, but people need to mind their own business, and realise that they are not the only capable parents that make decisions that are beneficial to their family.

    Mozying on down to the cashpoint while your kids is in the car is fine by me. Even popping in to the shop (and I do mean popping in) to get something quick while your kid naps in the car is also ok (for me). We all have our ways of doing things, and I think we all need to respect each other and our parenting skills and capacity.

    Of course, there are the few odd idiots who are obviously putting their kids in a dangerous situation by leaving them in the car (extreme weather for example), but as a society we need to stop being so risk averse and being able to differentiate between what is and isn’t cause for alarm.
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    • September 25, 2015 / 2:11 pm

      ah thanks so much. You have got it completely – live and let live!!

  9. September 25, 2015 / 1:14 pm

    I know I’ve left Hayden in the car several times when Ive gone to pay for petrol. I don’t know what all the fuss is about.
    As long as you’re not gone for long, can see them and the car isn’t hot. Boooo to them!
    Great post hun
    Charlotte x

  10. September 25, 2015 / 8:59 pm

    It really is crazy how much judging there is going on in the world of parenting, you really can’t do please everyone. I just wonder how much of a nicer place the world would be if people were a little more supportive and a little less judgy!
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  11. September 26, 2015 / 4:44 pm

    Interesting post – I don’t watch / read the news! I have no judgement to pass – as a mum to four I would hate anyone to judge me. Kaz x
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  12. September 26, 2015 / 8:05 pm

    I dont judge, I dont have kids I really dont know what I would do.

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