No, this is not going to be another article telling you to limit screen time, cuddle your baby and put them into a routine as soon as you can. Instead, we’re going to talk about the ways that you can be a better mother by making changes to YOU, not the way you talk to your kids. You may bear the title of mother, but that doesn’t mean that it’s all you are. You’re probably a big fan of getting your nails done and getting your hair done, but you feel guilty for it because your money would usually be going on the baby.
As a mother, you put yourself in a position that you believe everything you do, and you are, has to be for your children. To an extent, this is true. You will put your kids first with everything you do, but this doesn’t mean that you can’t do things for yourself. You are still a person, still a woman and still the person you were before you became a mother. If you want to be a better parent, you sometimes have to think of yourself first. It’s not an easy thing to do when you have children, but the more you respect yourself and practice self-care, the better you can treat your kids. You’ll be more confident, happier and secure in your ability to parent when you know that you are doing well for yourself. Here are five ways to be a better parent - by putting yourself first.
- Watch Your Health. You are a mother who needs to be alive and kicking for as long as possible for her children, but also for yourself! So, head to the vape shop and swap cigarettes for vape pens. Start eating greens or fruits at every meal. Drink water. All of these things can help you to take care of yourself a little better.
- Say No A Little More. If you find that you are ferrying people around, being there for everyone all the time and it’s exhausting you, then it’s time to stop saying yes and say no a little more. It can do wonders for your mental health not to accept everything all the time.
- Say Yes, Too. When it comes to saying yes, say it to yourself. Do you want a break? A meal different from the one that you’re cooking? A chance to workout more? Say yes and give yourself the permission you need to hear.
- Workout. HIIT workouts like this can give you a chance to burn off frustrated energy. Once you have burned this off, you’ll have more good energy to pour into your children.
- Adjust Your Expectations. Patience is hard when you’re a parent, so it’s time to adjust the expectations that you have on yourself, and you need to take time to forgive yourself when you do get impatient. You’ll be a better mother and a better person for it.
Make yourself the person you want to be, and you’ll be the parent you want to be, too.