We can all get caught up in the responsibilities of parenting, of making sure that food is on the table, managing our family relationships and more, to the point that it becomes easy to neglect some of the most important parts of our life. That’s not to say you should drop everything for your partner or that you should feel like you have to do the heavy lifting on all parts. However, a special date night can be a great way to check in on the person that you love and to enjoy a little self-indulgence.
Make sure that the entire evening is cleared
If you want your date to really feel like it’s just for you and your partner, then you need to ensure that you have the whole evening, not just a bit of it. For most people, that’s going to mean finding a babysitter for the kids. Hopefully, there is someone in the family who can fill in for you (and don’t forget to thank them.) Rather than having them come around to your house, you can instead have your kids enjoy a sleepover so that you and your partner can enjoy all the privacy in the world when you get back. If you don’t need to worry about getting back home early, you can have a truly wonderful night together.
Build up towards it throughout the day
A sense of anticipation and excitement about the date can help both partners feel more positive about it, looking forward to it, rather than feeling like it’s an obligation or a distraction from their daily duties. Leaving a love note to your partner in the morning or sending them a racy text during the workday can help to build the excitement and get both of you looking forward to when you actually get to spend that time together. Of course, this is much better when both members of the couple are playing along, so you don’t want to keep pushing that button if you’re not getting much of a response or it can start to feel a little one-sided.
Communicate about something outside of the norm
When you’re actually on your date night, don’t get bogged down by discussing the minutiae of daily life or of the responsibilities that usually take up the majority of your time. When you first started dating, you undoubtedly had all kinds of deep and probing talks about a wider range of topics. You can get back to that, especially with some of the date questions that you can find online. Fun hypotheticals, questions about aspects of them you might not know, and getting into the nitty-gritty of shared interests can help make communication much livelier, which is just as important as romance, sex, or anything else that the relationship might entail.
Get a couple’s massage together
If you’re looking forward to adding a little sensuality to the night, just know it doesn’t all have to happen in the bedroom. We’re not talking about exploring a voyeuristic side, however. A couple’s massage is an experience that can both leave you feeling relaxed, indulgent, and at your most attractive. Look for spas near you that offer couples’ massages or, if you’re willing to pay a little extra, a masseuse that would be willing to make the trip to you. Of course, if you can’t get a couple’s massage, then you can recreate it at home with a few spa products, such as a nice body butter, some aromatherapy oils, and take turns giving each other massages.
Revisit somewhere you haven’t been in a while
If you have been in a relationship with someone for a long time then it is true that the honeymoon period might be over. However, aside from a deeper appreciation of another, this comes with the benefit of having a shared history and emotional connections that you share to certain things, activities, and places. Revisiting somewhere that you went before, especially on something like a first date, or where you were proposed to, or simply where you had a really special night, can be like taking a trip down memory lane. Brining all those fond memories to the surface can do a great job of reminding you why you fell in love, to begin with.
Dress up a little in the bedroom
Of course, there’s no denying that many of us want the date night to end up going into the bedroom. You can make things extra special there, as well. One of the ways to excite and invigorate things beyond the norm is to introduce something a little unfamiliar or new. If your partner hasn’t seen how you look in a fishnet bodystocking, you might be surprised by just how potent the effect can be. It can also help you feel much more confident and empowered, helping you feel much more active in taking what you want. It’s not the only way to spice things up in the bedroom, of course, but it’s surprisingly effective.
Bring some extras
You can bring a lot of extra fun to the bedroom by dabbling outside of the usual. However, this doesn’t mean that you have to explore every fantasy under the sun. In fact, aside from acting out fantasies, simply talking about them while kissing, cuddling, or engaging in foreplay can add a new layer of excitement to the night. Otherwise, you might want to look at some of the lighter toys you can introduce if you’re not used to playing with them. What’s more, there are other things that make the night more exciting that don’t necessarily need to be threatening, such as blindfolds or body oils, that can encourage you to explore one another’s bodies in new but safe ways that everyone is comfortable with.
You don’t need to go the whole nine yards and take every idea in mind to have a great date night. Just one or two can spice things and make it extra memorable to keep your bond going strong.